I've been living in Melbourne for over a year now. I'm watching the trees in my yard go through the same changes I've seen once before. It's been a whole cycle. Granted, I wasn't always here to witness all of it, but there is the recognition of 'oh yes, thats right - pomegranate comes slowly' and 'ohh wattle birds you're back and boisterous'. So I've been doing a bit of reflecting. Now before I say what I want to say, let me start by being honest and admitting that I also kin

My complete pleasure is a myth... no longer. For too long, I believed my pleasure to be real and complete, when it was actually fragmented. It was partial. Not integrated or whole. Here is a piece of this story, from fragmented fucks to holistic pleasure. Picture a sex scene. A decent sex scene in a film. You know.. the sex is presented as wild and overwhelmingly orgasmic. There's heavy breathing and moaning and wetness and all the good things. But on some level, it's pre

We know that sex has health benefits. It stimulates circulation and improves cholesterol, lowers pain and generally makes us feel good – thank you endorphins. But one thing that keeps coming up for me is the way sex interplays with emotional pain. Particularly the emotional pain of trauma. I’ve been exploring this intensely for years and am always trying to bring more consciousness to how my pain and pleasure relate. It’s less about erasing the past and more about integrating